My honeymoon was incredible! I received so many blessons (blessings and lessons) from traveling around Europe. Read part 1 here.
Aloha gorgeous ones!
If you haven’t noticed, I’ve shifted my name in social media outlets to “The Sexy Coach”, and my website has a new url: www.thesexycoach.com.
Some of you may be wondering why and I’m here to quell your curiosity.
I have been in deep inquiry lately about my business and what I do exactly. A month ago, I received a message from the Divine (& when the Divine speaks I listen) that I needed to create a name that reflects what I do & the title Sex & Relationship Coach just wasn’t quite reflecting that.
I thought about it for a few days and then recalled that my friends and colleagues have been calling me The Sexy Coach for years!
The answer was beneath my nose the whole time!
I remember when they first started calling me The Sexy Coach and it would make me laugh and brought so much joy to my heart when they said that name.
So I decided right then and there that I would fully step into that nickname and claim it!
Another reason the title, The Sexy Coach seems so fitting for me is because I do so much more than just sex & relationship coaching.
I teach about sensual embodiment, pleasure, the practice of loving your body again, creativity, self-expression, desire, and how to make yourself the most important relationship ever and of course, how to feel sexy at any age.
This is my life purpose.
Do you feel you’ve found yours yet? Or are you still looking?
You don’t have to become a sex coach like me, what matters is you follow the callings of your heart, follow what lights you up, and follow your passion.
It took a long road to get to where I am now- if you’ve known me for years, you’ll know I used to be a high school teacher, a yoga teacher, and I studied psychology in college.
Maybe you also know some of my past story too, about how I came to my own journey of sexual healing and transformed the trauma into light. While I’m not on your journey and I can’t speak for what you’ve had to overcome and are still processing, I do know that we, as a human collective, are going through a sexual, sensual, and embodied awakening.
Wherever you’ve come from, wherever you are in your journey, whatever your past, I believe in your potential to heal. It doesn’t matter what your politics, your faith, your cultural background, your family, or your relationship status.
Becoming embodied and embracing sensuality is available to YOU. You have the ability to become that luscious woman you’ve always dreamt about.
Sexiness isn’t about what you look like, your weight, body type, or what you wear. It’s about how you FEEL on the inside.
Don’t you agree?
I’m so excited for you to join me, and thank you, everyone, for your love and support!
If you’re reading this right now and you can resonate, I invite you to get in contact with me. Maybe you’ve been following me for a while but haven’t felt brave enough yet, then how about being brave now?
Book your free Sacred Compass Activation here, and let’s get you on your journey back to sexiness, sensuality, and erotic fulfillment.
Mahalo nui loa
Finding your sexual voice
In my work with women, both as a sex coach and an Intentional Creativity teacher, my work is all about helping them find their voice again after staying silent for years. Maybe you’ve already done this work of finding your voice? You dance, you have a creativity practice, you sing, you journal, you practice asserting your boundaries. But if you’re finding that you still freeze in the bedroom, don’t know what you want or even how to ask for it, you need to learn how to find your sexual voice.
Before I tell you what your sexual voice is, and how to find it, let me give you some of my story:
I was raised in the church to be a good girl. Obedient, demure, polite, undemanding, and definitely not sensual or to have my own sexual desire. I never raised my voice because when I tried I was punished– not by my parents but by various teachers I had growing up. I was taught to look after everybody else’s emotions, not rock the boat, keep quiet and don’t make a fuss.
Asking for what I wanted was “selfish” and “demanding”, and I was never allowed to put my own needs, wants or desires first.
If this sounds like you, then you’re not alone. This message of “keep quiet, don’t be selfish” is stays with us into adulthood, and it creeps into every area of our lives, including your sexuality. You become so used to staying silent that you have no idea who you are or what you want anymore.
This is why you need to learn how to find your sexual voice again.
But what is your sexual voice? If I could summarize it in just one sentence, it would be this:
You feel unapologetic and unashamed to be who you really are as a sexual being.
Just let that sink in for a moment. Does that feel true for you, right now? If it doesn’t, then notice where that shows up in your body. Finding your sexual voice is a process of coming alive and coming home to your body.
Here’s a checklist of how I define your sexual voice:
- You feel empowered to speak up and ask for what you want.
- You feel able to say NO to what you don’t want.
- You feel unashamed to express your pleasure out loud and make noise when you’re making love.
- You know who you are as a sexual being and how you like to show up in the bedroom.
- You feel confident to interrupt a sexual activity when something hurts, feels uncomfortable, or if you’re just not feeling it.
- You feel completely comfortable with your vulva and intimate areas and can name all of the parts without feeling embarrassed.
- You know what your turn-ons and turn-offs are, and know how to express them to your beloved.
- You aren’t afraid to take erotic risks because you know what your hard limits are, and how to voice them.
How many of those did you check off? It’s not a competition or a test, if you didn’t check off any then that’s completely ok! Think of this list as something to aspire to.
If you want to start finding your unique sexual voice and be able to finally ask for what you want in bed, then I invite you to book a 30 minute complimentary Sacred Compass Activation with me. Book it here.
Mahalo nui loa
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