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Transformation and Tantra

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Learning Tantra has changed my life.

I’m not speaking about the kind of Tantra where you have sex for hours on end, although that is always interesting…

I’m talking about the Tantra that is about awakening the senses through breath. Sounds easy enough right?! Well, yes and no.

When I first began studying Tantra, I was a virgin and and devouring the book, The Art of Sexual Ecstacy, yet even after I had sex, I still didn’t “Get” Tantra like I had hoped.

In fact, I kind of gave up on Tantra after awhile, although it popped up in my radar from lovers from time to time, but I felt like I was missing a key point.

It wasn’t until I began my 6 month certification journey in Urban Tantra with Psalm Isadora this past May, that Tantra and me finally clicked.

I realized what I was missing previously, the mind/body connection. Which baffled me, down-right frustrated me for a little while, after all, I’d been a certified yoga teacher since 2011, but what I had failed to connect was my breathing to my sensuality and sexuality. Not suprising since this is something we’re never taught (more on that another day).

In yoga, we’re taught to connect with our breath and be present in our body, yet, sensuality is totally left out and not even addressed, even though, yoga in itself can be such a sensual experience.

So, starting in May, I started practicing Psalm’s 3-Part Tantra Breath and K.I.S.S Meditation daily and it started to change my life so rapidly, I felt compelled to teach and share it with my community, in person every week now for 2 months.

What’s even cooler is that the women who’ve been coming since the beginning are noticing a difference too, even though they said they only practice once a week with me. How awesome is that?!

So beauties, if you’re interested in learning more about how Tantra can transform your life, totally turning up your inner glow, email me at info@goddessdominique.com and let’s connect 🙂 Blessings and bliss my loves!

3 Part Tantra Breath

 

The Benefits of Passionate Kissing

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In Bed The Kiss by Henri de Toulouse Lautrec

Kiss and Tell…

Have you ever had one of those kisses where it seems that time stops and it’s just you and your lover, kissing so passionately you thought you were going to melt into their deliciousness?

“She leaned into his kiss; she put her whole body into it, heat rising from her very core. He responded, pressing his body against her and then felt as if he was merging into her, the two of them becoming one passionate, cosmic, writhing body”

There is nothing in the world more intimate than a kiss, my partner recently shared that he thinks kissing is probably just as intimate as watching your lover give birth. My most recent favorite quote of his, “The eyes may be the windows to the soul, but the mouth is the door”, so many reasons I love that man! In fact, his kiss is so unique to me, that when we had separated years ago for a spell, I dreamed about his kisses…so out of this world!

I for one am a huge fan of making out, if you couldn’t tell already and I know that many of you reading this are fans too, but did you know that not only does kissing feel amazing, but it’s actually good for you?

 

Now, I know that not all kissing are mind blowing and cosmic, some are quite     terrible actually. So, for the purpose of this article, I’m referring to the yummy, can’t keep your mind and hands off of the person you last pressed your lips, and possibly more against kinds of kisses.

The Lovers 2

“Kissing – and I mean like, yummy, smacking kissing – is the most delicious, most   b  beautiful and passionate thing that two people can do, bar none. Better than sex, hands down.” ~ D. Barrymore

In recent years, have been quite a few surveys and studies exploring the benefits of locking lips with your loved ones…Here are just a few of some of the benefits discovered:

  1. Kissing lowers stress and helps keep you beautiful: Next time you’re feeling under pressure, seek out your favorite sexy person and just go for it. Not only will it lower your blood pressure by dilating your blood vessels which is thought to lower your BP, you’ll burn calories, and tone your facial muscles to help keep you looking and feeling fabulous!
  2. Kissing boosts your immune system: I’m sure you’ve heard that your mouth is one of the dirtiest places on your body, true story, but did you know that when you’re making out with someone, your body produces more saliva which is thought to help reduce plaque, so pucker up and prepare for a good immune boosting round of tonsil hockey!
  3. Kissing releases feel good chemicals into your body: When you’re in love or just getting to know the person you’re trading kisses with, your body releases Dopamine, the chemical released when you’re in love or falling in love and Norepinephrine, which tends to get activated when you’re in novel situations. This means that when you’re just starting you’re dating adventure or love affair; these chemicals are released to create a feeling of excitement and help you feel connected to your potential partner.

After you’ve been dating for awhile or have deepened your relationship to a committed status, the chemical Oxytocin is released, which makes us feel like there’s no place on earth we’d rather be than in our beloved arms. It gives us a sense of euphoria and helps make us feel safe with our beloved and even encourages us to commit further because we can’t get enough of them!

In addition to researching to the physiological benefits of kissing, I took to the streets, well, cafes and restaurants actually, and inquired about what my subjects perceived the benefits of kissing were. My favorite part about this research was watching their faces melt in smiles and yummy remembrance of their last delectable make-out session. Here’s what they had to say:

Jason, Firefighter: There’s nothing in the world more intimate then kissing, it’s one of the most understated sexual acts we perform. The closeness you create with that special someone is indescribable.

Steph, Bartender/Interior Decorator: Kissing is like a gate-way drug, if it’s good, you don’t want to stop! It also creates confidence, helps you read a person and find out if they’re the right one for you. Kissing is good medicine, it’s like therapy.

Ben, Electrician/Daka: It can be very intimate, more intimate than sex. I like to be surprised and enticed by a kiss, and at the same time lose myself completely in the moment. Kissing makes me feel connected, vulnerable and it can open us up to the possibility with the person we’re kissing and ourselves.

Em, Artist: There’s an innocence to it (kissing). Making out is so awesome, I don’t think people do enough of it!

Adam, Restaurant Manager/Former Adult Film Star: Kissing can lead to such an intense encounter where you can tell so much about that person from how sexual the person actually is to what type of sex you’re going to have with them.

Julia, Model: Kissing is like meditating. It brings you completely into the moment, brings you exactly to where you are, and it’s really grounding.

So there you have it lovelies, passionate kissing is a mix of therapy, medicine, meditation, and is a down-right sensual soul adventure at times!

But you don’t have to take my word for it…go out and explore the juicy benefits of kissing for yourself!

Rodin The Kiss

Sex Education in the U.S.A: A Bleeping Travesty

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Sex Education in the U.S.A: A Bleeping Travesty

When was the first time you learned about sex? Were you in fifth grade in an awkward Sex Ed class, was it when you were in high school, at your first big dance, was it in college with your crush, was it when you had your wedding night with your true love (like that happens nowadays)?

How exactly did you learn about sex, I mean, what did you consider your education? Was it your best friends, your liberal parents, getting pregnant, watching copious amounts of porn, wandering nervously in a bookstore, a romance novel, an actual college Human Sexuality course?

Or was your first sexual experience and education through molestation, incest, or rape, as a youth? Who helped you and taught you how to be in your body again without feeling shame or fear? Did you even tell anyone or were you made to feel shameful and that you were not allowed to talk about it and it never happened?

If you’re like many who live in the United States, most likely you never were given any formal education unless you took Human Sexuality in college, were sent to a counselor because you were pregnant, purchased a Kama Sutra book, or one of your first lovers was awesome and took the time to really teach you about sex and your body. It’s no secret that the U.S. falls way behind in many things now a days, education being one of them. We can barely keep art classes in high school let alone keep students enrolled in school and sex ed is taught in P.E….right?!

Schools have to fight to teach a basic “Sex Ed” class and the preferred teaching from the right wing conservatives is abstinence or a condom demonstration from Planned Parenthood. All of it practically, with the exception of the condom demonstration, a complete fucking waste of time for our students, who in the mean time learn about sex from watching porn. This would be fine if they had other role models instead of watching something that portrays women being dominated and completely submissive or in threesomes with other women as a man watches. All usually one sided and an unhealthy intro for any beginner seeking sexual knowledge.

So what do we do? How do we stop the rate of sexual abuse and shame from rising daily? Some may argue that teen pregnancy is down because of the use of IUD’s and  Teen Mom type shows but that didn’t stop sexual abuse and human sexual trafficking in the US to skyrocket the past couple of years. What the hell is going on indeed. People spend millions of dollars in campaigns to shed a negative light on abortion or in support of abortion but I ask you, Where the shit is the education to prevent this in the first place?!!! Sex Ed in high school or in fifth grade or whenever you had it was a joke and you know it. It was basically a glorified Physiology class!

Where is the sex education that is actually useful and teaches teens or adults for that matter about ACTUAL SEX AND INTIMACY! I was speaking with a wedding planner I met at an event recently and she debated with me that college is the perfect age for a Human Sexuality class and I respectfully said, bull shit. By the time our kids are in college they are either filled with misinformation, no information, or have had a bevy of lovers and think they’re awesome when in reality, they don’t have a clue on how to properly stimulate an orgasm or multiple orgasms in their partner(s). So why in God’s great name are we waiting and hoping maybe they take it in college?!

A human sexuality course needs to happen in high school, yes high school all you prudes! It’s not like I’m saying it should happen in middle school or elementary school so stop having a cow already. If it was up to me, a sex ed course in high school would be mandatory, like math or English. How else are they going to learn about masturbation, the glories of menstruation, orgasm, being a great lover to yourself and your beloved/partner(s)? Some of you are freaking out, so take a deep breath, you know it’s all important to learn. And take another breath in because of course teaching about physiology is important too and all the different relationship styles and the horrid STD’s they could catch or pregnancies that could happen if they tempt fate, make mistakes or are just making stupid choices.

Our kids need us to take a stand and put our grown up pants on and stand up to the school system run by conservative right wing religious prudes and demand that they help us teach our kids about SEX! We need to start a movement to make all high schools teach a Human Sexuality course, our present and future generations are depending on us to teach them to love their bodies instead of feeling shame and doubt when it comes to sex and love. It’s our job to get this movement going now, at this time in history, who’s with me?

 

Written by Dominique Peters

Sex and Relationship Coach

www.goddessdominique.com

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