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sexual energy, Dominique Peters

Manifest your heart’s desires with your sexual energy

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Let me ask you a question, do you really know just how powerful your sexual energy is? If you really, really knew, you’d know why so many patriarchal religions have tried to suppress and deny it for centuries. Sexual energy is powerful stuff, which can be channeled for good or for not so benevolent purposes! You’ve probably experienced it when used for manipulation or power, so it’s time to experience all of the life-giving and juicy ways it can be used for good!

Our sexuality and sexual energy truly is a gift from god/goddess/source/the divine– however you want to call it. In the Tantric and Taoist traditions, we can use this energy for our health and vitality, to bring us closer to the divine, and to create intentionally. 

Whether you believe in “magic” or not, I believe that you too can harness your sexual energy to create amazing things in your life.

Maybe you want more intimacy in your relationship, to feel more sexually and sensually alive, more orgasms, or to have better health and overall vitality? Whatever it is, you can use your sexual energy to create this. 

I really believe that when women awaken to their sexual power, their whole world changes.

Suddenly, sex isn’t just something you do for your partner or husband. It stops being a chore and stops being full of shame and guilt. You start to awaken and come alive in your beautiful body. Colors become more vibrant, you glow and hum. Your friends will ask you whether you’ve changed your beauty regimen– I kid you not!

This aliveness, power, and juiciness is available to everyone.

And I want to show you how you can do it by harnessing your sexual energy and using it to create what you really want in your life.

Maybe you already have an intention practice? If you’ve already created vision boards, you’ve journaled, painted, sang, prayed, danced, or recited affirmations, the exercises I will describe will take it to the next level. 

As women, we’ve forgotten our real power which is the creatrix and initiatrix.

We are connected to the world through our monthly cycles and how we literally birth new life into the world. Now it’s time that you understood your power and used it to birth what you really want. 

I’m going to describe two very simple techniques you can practice straight away to create your magic in your life, all using your powerful sexual energy. 

Be patient and gentle with yourself. They take a bit of practice but once mastered, you can make it your own. 

Here’s how you begin:

  1. Set the scene. Light a candle or some incense, create a nest in your bed or just a cozy atmosphere. You could take this as a reason to clean up and take all the clothes off the floor!
  2. Create your intention. What do you really, really want to create or have? It doesn’t need to be sexual, but it’s important that you are excited with the idea and that you make it as specific as you can. See it in your mind’s eye and then feel it with all of your senses. Engage the senses of touch, taste, sound, smell, and sight. How would it look like and feel like to have this in your life? Make sure that this intention is in line with yours and the world’s highest good. Set the intention that what you wish to create will be for the benefit of all. 
  3. Once you’ve got this clear. It’s time to turn yourself on! Get creative here, you may want to dance, do hip circles, caress your body, do kegels or self-pleasure. Focus on turning on your whole body and your senses.
  4. Start to feel your sexual energy. It will start in your lower chakras and start to imagine that it’s swirling around your whole pelvis. Move with it and feel how this delicious sexual energy is moving around. You may want to move your hips and do some squeezes.
  5. How are you experiencing this? Does it have a color? Is it tingling, pulsating, shimmering? Light or heavy? Connect with it and feel it the best you can.   

There are two directions you can take this exercise.

Option 1: 

Now connect with your intention. Imagine having the idea in the palm of one hand, and you’re holding your powerful sexual energy in the other palm. 

Now, bring your hands together until they melt and feel these forces combining. 

Cup your hands and throw out this intention to the universe/divine/god/goddess.  

Then using your hands imagine scooping all of this juicy energy and pull it into your body. Caress your body down from your head to your toes and seal it all in. 

Option 2:

Feeling your sexual energy swirling around your lower chakras, now start to pull this energy up through the rest of your chakras: Your sacral, solar plexus, heart, throat, third eye and finally, your crown. 

Keep stimulating yourself and feeling your sexual power, it may take a while to get the hang of it. It doesn’t matter whether you orgasm or not, just focus on feeling the pleasure and your power. 

Once it reaches your crown, visualize your intention again and imagine sending it out to the universe. Boom! 

With your hands, imagine gathering all the energy from your intention into a ball and then pull it down through your head and into your body. 

At the end of both exercises, allow yourself a few minutes to soak it all in and feel it integrating into your body and energy system. 

Thank your body and thank the divine, and then carry on with your day.

Go on, give it a try!

Do you want to create some magic in your life? Contact me here and book your complimentary 30 minute Sacred Compass Activation.

Mahalo nui loa

Dominique

5 Questions You Need To Ask Before Choosing a Tantra Teacher

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tantra teacher, spiritual teacher, Dominique Peters

Who do you consider your teacher?

We find many teachers as we journey through life- some we intentionally choose, and some who find their way to us. When you choose to take a journey of personal, spiritual and sexual growth, you will look for someone who’s been there and who can guide you along. You’ll look for a spiritual teacher or even a guru who’s walked the path so that you can find your own path.

You’ll find many Tantra teachers and training programs out there, however, they are not always what they seem. A few schools of Tantra have been in the media recently having been outed with very serious allegations of sexual misconduct and assault by their students. I feel that it’s my duty of care to encourage you to really do your research when choosing a teacher, training program or “guru”. (I do not believe in “gurus” by the way!).

The best teachers are those who walk their talk, who’ve been to hell and back and can now light the way for you. They don’t just tell you what to do, they go through it with you.

I am always very careful about who I choose to teach me, and with very good reason.

I trained with many renowned teachers, including Psalm Isadora, SARK, Shiloh Sophia Mcloud who I respected and admired. I also came across many people who called themselves teachers who I would not recommend.

Before you choose a teacher, here are 5 questions that I always ask myself before choosing a teacher, and I invite you to do the same:

  1. Are they genuine?

Are they speaking from the heart, or are they just repeating a lot of spiritual new age nonsense? Do they genuinely care about the welfare of their students? Do they show care in their classes?

  1. Have they lived through what they teach?

Have they been to hell and back? Do they practice what they preach on a day-to-day basis? Are they really “walking the walk” as opposed to just saying all the right things?

  1. What do their past students say?

A genuine teacher will be happy for you to speak to past students and ask for feedback. Really do your homework and find out what previous students have said and how they found the teacher.

  1. How do they handle complaints?

Pay attention to how your teacher handles complaints and criticism. Do they go on the defensive and try to blame the accuser? Do they make excuses and claim it was just a “mistake”? Or do they own their crap, take responsibility and try to make amends?

  1. Do they have accountability?

Nobody, not even your guru, is beyond accountability! Nobody can do this kind of work alone and without peer support. Does your teacher have a support system of their own and mentors of their own? In most forms of psychotherapy, supervision is mandatory precisely because nobody is perfect. If your teacher is truly alone and says they don’t “need” mentors- that’s a warning sign!

I have mentors, colleagues, and supporters because I am human. As is your teacher.

Above all, use your discernment and trust your gut instinct. If you’re getting a strong gut reaction about a teacher or training, HONOR THAT and walk away.

Nobody is perfect, and sometimes your teacher will mess up because we are all human. Yes, even me! What matters is how they take responsibility for their actions and for their students.

Think very carefully about calling somebody a “guru” and putting them on a pedestal. Nobody is “above” you and spiritual abilities do NOT equate being an integrated person or having integrity.

What do you think? What questions do you ask before choosing a new teacher?

I hope that if you choose me as your teacher, I will prove myself to you and earn your trust. If you feel called to work with me, then I invite you to join the Sacred Sexual Compass program which started last week.

Join here, beauty!

The Healing Power of Pleasure

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pleasure, Tantra, Dominique Peters

 

Take a deep breath.

I want you to imagine what it feels like to take your first sip of hot coffee in the morning.

Or maybe how it feels to smell a bunch of fresh cut flowers. Or how it feels when somebody gives you a back rub after a long day sitting in front of the computer.

Feels good, doesn’t it?

This is what pleasure is. Pleasure is something that you feel first and foremost in your body. It’s anything that feels yummy & delicious.

One of the biggest misconceptions about pleasure is that it only means sexual pleasure. Now don’t get me wrong, my work is about helping both women and men experience more sexual pleasure, but the secret to feeling more sexual pleasure is to start feeling pleasure in all its forms.

Do you remember the last time you felt real pleasure in your body that wasn’t related to sex?

I blame our culture.

We are afraid of pleasure

In the west, we are pleasure-phobic because there is a deeply ingrained belief that we must work hard and suffer to be worthy. In the USA, workers receive an average of just 10 days paid holiday in a whole year- including Christmas Day! American workers are working more than ever before and taking less time off, is it any wonder that we are feeling more stressed than ever?

When I was trying to get some statistics for this article, I typed into Google, “Why pleasure is […]” and the first suggestion that came up was, “Why pleasure is bad”.

We have a deeply held belief (which you can trace back to our founding fathers’ Puritanical roots) that pleasure equals sin.

I invite you to sit for a minute and feel into what comes up for you when you think about pleasure. Are you worried it means going into excess? That it means hedonism? That it will become addictive in the same way we can become addicted to alcohol, fatty foods, cigarettes and recreational drugs?

If we are so deeply afraid of feeling pleasurable sensations, then I say no wonder we are feeling so stressed and disconnected from our bodies, and consequently aren’t enjoying sex!

Pleasure is medicine

I want to introduce a radical new way of thinking about pleasure: Pleasure as healing medicine. There is more scientific evidence coming out about how pleasure decreases stress hormones, increases all the feel-good hormones of oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins, inhibits inflammation and even slows down the aging process!

If it’s commonly acknowledged that stress is the number one cause of most serious illnesses and health conditions, then wouldn’t pleasure be the number one remedy?

In our fast-paced and overstressed society, we need to be doing more of what brings us real joy and lights us up.

Tantra teaches us that pleasure is medicine and that pleasure is a practice: this is what I teach to my clients.

Pleasure is a practice

Taking the time to cultivate pleasure in your life may not be easy at first. We have been so conditioned to shut down our authentic feelings, desires, and dreams that to reverse this behavior can take some work.

When I work with women, their most common resistance is that they don’t want to be “selfish”, “demanding” or they’re afraid of offending someone. They think they’re just too busy to focus on themselves, even if it’s just for 20 minutes a day and they’ve got no energy for it.

Can you hear yourself saying that, as you read this? What’s stopping you from taking 20 minutes a day doing something that brings you joy?

Cultivating pleasure means actively searching for what brings you a feeling of joy, bliss, and connectedness. It can be as simple as when you’re walking in your neighborhood and you smell the aroma of freshly baked bread as you walk past a bake shop, you stop for a few moments and allow yourself to inhale the smell. Or if you’re sitting inside your house reading the newspaper and you see that the sun is shining outside, that you go and sit in the garden and enjoy the sunshine.

Here’s my challenge to you:

Make a “bliss list” of everything that brings you pleasure, alone, with friends and with a partner. You’ll find that when you start making a conscious effort to experiencing more pleasure in your life, you’ll find more things that bring you pleasure!

If you want to take the next step to experience more joy, bliss, and pleasure in your life, I have tailored packages designed to support you using Tantric techniques and my signature program, the Sacred Sexual Compass.

I invite you to book a free 30-minute Sacred Compass Activation with me to see how it can transform your life by clicking here.

Why You Must Always Follow Your Heart, Even If It Seems Crazy

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follow your heart, Dominique Peters

You know that feeling.

Something feels wrong. You can’t place it except for a feeling deep inside that you don’t feel in alignment.

Or something just lights you up. It feels like warmth, a fluttering, a glow and no reasoning will explain where it’s coming from.

It doesn’t make sense at all and you’re really confused.

If you’ve been spending your life being “the sensible one” or “doing the right thing” then you, sister, are a people pleaser and it’s draining you!

What would happen if you chose to stop listening to your head and start listening to what your heart wants?

Let me be honest, I haven’t always trusted my intuition or listened to my heart. I’ve let other people convince me to go against what my intuition was saying, I’ve made some big mistakes along my path, and usually because I didn’t trust myself.

There are still times when I let the voice of self-doubt get in the way, but I’ve gotten better.

If I hadn’t followed my heart, I never would have discovered Tantra and never would have healed my deepest wounds with my sexuality. I would never have created my artwork or become a Sex Coach or an Intentional Creativity Teacher.

Now I can serve you.

Following your heart takes real courage, but I promise it will be worth it and I’m going to give you 5 reasons why.

1. You become empowered

When your heart speaks, it’s usually completely different what those around you are telling you. They may be doing it from a place of love, but is it really serving you? When you have the courage to follow your heart, you’re trusting in your own authority. You’re making a choice for yourself. It’s the ultimate tool of self-empowerment!

2. You will inspire others

Everybody has dreams, how many people have the courage to follow through with them and make them into reality? When you have the courage to put your heart’s whispers into the world, you’re giving others permission to do the same.

Soon, people who follow you will be thinking, “If she can do it, then so can I!”.

What would happen if the world was filled with heart inspirations?

3. The world needs your message

What if you were actually being selfish by not sharing your heart? If you’re worried that what you have to say doesn’t matter because it’s already been said already, STOP RIGHT THERE!

Nobody can share your message like you can, so step up and shine your light! What if you started believing that the world needs what you have to say.

We need more truth tellers, storytellers, mystics, and healers.

It’s time you stepped up.

4. Your intuition gets sharper

The more you practice listening to your heart and intuition, I promise, the easier it gets and the more you can rely on it. 

5. You’ll be happier long-term

Think of where you want to be in 10 years time, 20 years time, 30 years time. What do you want to be doing?

If what you’re doing now isn’t lighting you up, then will you be any happier in the future?

When you ignore the callings of your heart, you’re actually ignoring your deepest self. You’ll find that your healing comes when you embrace who you really are, which means following the calling of your heart.

And it won’t just be you. The happier you are, the happier your loved ones will be too.

I know because I’m the happiest I’ve been since I stopped and truly listened to my heart’s calling.

Sure, it’s hard work, but I wouldn’t change one second of my journey.

The past few months, my heart has been calling me to integrate my work, which is why you’ll be seeing my artwork from Heartcore Inspirations integrated with my work in Tantra.

I hope you’ll join me on this journey. With love, from my heart to yours.

Are you feeling called to dive deep into your sexuality?

Contact me here and let’s get started.

Let’s get connected.

Intimacy starts with communication. Connection starts with authenticity. Let’s make this personal. 

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Mahalo nui loa

Dominique xox

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